Confessions of a Serial “Fresh Starter”

Hi, my name is Tanitha and I am addicted to making life changing goals that I never follow through on. I have seriously lost count of how many times I have wanted to revamp my house, my body, my health, my filing system, my routine, my blog, my organization skills, how I run my business etc etc etc…

Anyone with me on this?  Here’s the problem though, I almost always bite off more than I can chew or try to do everything at once, which inevitably leads to ‘failure’, and me getting down on myself and then often reverting further away from where I wanted to be than before, it is a vicious cycle and has not served me thus far so I am re-assessing and looking for better ways to go about things.

The first thing that I know is a problem for me is a serious case of impatience, like I start working out and if three days in I haven’t lost 15 lbs I feel discouraged which I realize is insane (and a huge exaggeration), but I have a hard time focusing on the good (like how positive I feel after a work out regardless of any instant-success that doesn’t actually exist for anyone). Same thing with organization, last week I was super lucky to have Bryn’s Mom here for a day and a bit and she played with Hudson while I got some de cluttering done, but I only got half way through the miscellaneous papers everywhere so the mess just feels like it has increased and I haven’t touched them since even though I know if I just took 20 minutes a few times a week I could easily stay on top of it all.

What is 20 minutes though? That’s 1/3rd of an hour! It doesn’t seem like much but really, my one year old will rarely happily play by himself for that long and loves getting into whatever I am up to, especially neatly piled and organized papers and there aren’t enough sets of 20 minutes in my world where he is sleeping… so again, I must be looking at it all wrong…

All this being said I am working on shifting my overall mindset and I know as I make small changes in that, I will be honing the tools I need to be more successful in making other shifts in my life. Here are the best of the best things I have learned lately that I am working on integrating into my life (slowly and patiently of course haha)…

DO NOT MAKE A TO DO LIST… what?! Yes, you read that right. IF you are all about the lists and do well with that all the power to you, but when I write a to do list it is more like setting myself up for failure because I try to cram too many things into it and cannot possibly make a go of completing it. A great tip I just recently heard, and this could pertain more to working from home but I think blog and business aside just as a Mom at home this is a great tool…

Check-in with yourself on the hour and do the one thing that is most important thing for you to accomplish within that hour. This can be business related or not. So sometimes it might be taking your little one outside for a little walk or play before you both lose it. It could be as simple as filling your water bottle up and ensuring you finish all that water within the hour, it can be sending that email you have been putting off, emptying the dishwasher, doing your social media post. Simple, attainable, small tasks. Bam, all of a sudden you feel more successful! I will be continuing to implement this one, I have started with every two hours and will work my way to hourly – and this doesn’t need to be all waking hours it can be set hours like 9-5 or something – make it work for you!

Be both disciplined & gracious with yourself. I know, like really really KNOW that as much as I am generally a positive person and up beat I treat myself in a way I would never treat anyone else ever. Blech, I hate to even announce that but I know there are lots of us out there that need to be more kind to ourselves and it is a hard thing to change! First off being disciplined – a concept I have been trying to wrap my head around when it comes to my business is would I hire/fire myself? I have an amazing opportunity to work for myself but that being said WORK still needs to get done and so I have been working on ways to be working hard for myself and making the time I spend count! As far as being gracious towards myself – one thing – I have been trying to do that has helped is waking up and smiling at myself in the mirror – messy hair, dark circles, perfectly rested – however you roll out of bed in the morning give yourself a smile – even do a Joey “Hey, how you doin?” if you dare. Silly, uncomfortable, life changing. I admit I don’t always remember to do this depending on how my day starts but it helps me so much to start my day off by being kind to myself.

Those are my little simple things I am doing – and no my life is not suddenly going to be transformed top to bottom but I am learning patience and allowing myself to learn and grow and head steadily in the right direction even if it is in a one step forward and two steps back sort of way – that is still an improvement to a few steps forward followed by an about face and sprint in the opposite direction – right?!